Today we're going to talk about the things that you should do first after you get engaged.
1. Celebrate with your fiance!
Now, I know that everyone's mind always goes first to telling their friends and family and posting it on social media, and we'll definitely talk about those things, but I want to highlight the importance of actually taking time to celebrate together, just the two of you.
2. Tell your family and friends.
What you may want to consider first, though, is the order that you're going to tell people. You want to make sure that no one is going to get upset that someone else found out before them. Of course, you don't need to tell everyone those details, but it's still good to consider. Everyone's family and friends are going to be a little different. How you communicate with them on a regular basis will likely impact how you tell them about your engagement. There is no cookie cutter way, and while there are many people that will tell you it's inappropriate for family and friends to find out over social media or by a call or text instead of in-person, but if you're not with your family, or you aren't able to communicate regularly with them, it's totally fine to use these methods. At the end of the day, it's your decision.
3. Practice saying, “We don’t know yet, we’re just enjoying being engaged. We’ll give you more details when we have them.”
This is going to be your answer for almost every question, because right after you get engaged, they're going to start asking you about the wedding. And clearly, if you've only been engaged for a few hours, you won't have answers yet. Get really comfortable with this sentence. Let people know that you're just enjoying the moment, you aren't jumping in to wedding planning right away, but you'll fill them in once you get started.
4. Decide how and when to share on social media
This could include your Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc., just make sure that you and your fiance our on the same page about it. There are a lot of ways that you can share the news. You can post a picture of the ring, you can do a simple status update, share some photos of the two of you together, or go in-depth and share your love story or the story of the engagement. It's totally up to you and you can do as much or as little as you'd like. Don't feel like you have to post a picture of your ring, though, if that makes you uncomfortable, or don't feel like you have to tell the proposal story details if it's really personal to you. As long as you and your fiance are in agreement, do what feels best for you.
5. Start thinking about your wedding
First, make sure you're talking about the vision for the wedding day with your fiance. This should be a conversation that you have together to get on the same page about everything before you start looping in your family, friends, or anyone that has an opinion on what your wedding should be. What's most important is that your wedding day is what you two want it to be, so take some time to discuss this together, just the two of you, before you share those details with everyone else.
6. You can secretly enjoy your beautiful ring
It's totally fine! It's shiny, it sparkles, it's going to catch the sunlight and then catch your eye. It's totally normal to look at it and play with it. What's not acceptable is shoving it in other people's faces and saying, "Look at my ring!". That's mean and rude. Only show it when people ask, and trust me, they will ask. It's beautiful and they want to share in your excitement, and part of that is admiring your ring. Just make sure they ask first. When you're alone, you can admire it all you want! ;)