How many of you can relate to this conversation?
Candi: What’s for dinner?
Eli: I don’t know, what sounds good to you?
Candi: I don’t know, that’s why I asked you.
Eli: I don’t care, you decide.
Candi: I don’t care either, just pick something.
And so on and so on (until we just make a frozen pizza, which admittedly, is our decision about 99% of the time).
We all know that feeling. You’ve been making decisions all day - what to wear that morning, what route to take to work to avoid traffic, job-related decisions, family decisions - the list goes on and on. Adding wedding planning on top of that can feel like the needle that breaks the camel’s back. Plain and simple, wedding planning is a ton of decisions. And decision making fatigue is a real thing. We all have our breaking point (and for some reason deciding on dinner seems to be a common one) and while planning your wedding, you will want to throw your hands in the air and give all decision making power over to someone else. If you’ve experienced this, trust me, you aren’t alone.
While the feeling is almost inevitable, there are some things that you can do to help alleviate this pain point.
1. Divvy up the responsibilities
Yes, wedding planning should be a team effort, but that doesn’t always mean that both of you need to be a part of every single decision. Find the areas that you each care most about, and then take full control of those items and let your partner take full control of theirs. Having one less thing on your plate will allow you to more fully focus on your designated areas.
2. Prioritize your vendors
If you haven’t already read my blog post about ranking your vendors, take a moment to go back and read it. Your prioritized list is your guiding light throughout planning, and when the decisions start stacking up, it’s a great reference point to help get you back on track. We often spend so much time overthinking things that in the end don’t really matter all that much to us. So, when you can’t decide between vanilla or chocolate frosting, take a step back and remember the big picture. If this wasn’t an area that was important to you to begin with, then don’t overthink it. Trust your gut, and move on to bigger and better things. (And probably choose chocolate. You can never go wrong with chocolate.)
3. Hire a wedding coordinator
As you get closer and closer to your wedding day, the more details there are to keep track of, and the more decisions there are to make. At this point, you’ve done the heavy lifting, so let someone else take over and get you to the finish line. A professional wedding planner has seen and managed hundreds of weddings, and because of that, can easily make a decision that will make your day go much smoother. We’ve seen what works and what doesn’t, and we know how to put out fires, and we can do all of that without interrupting you. You can carry on getting ready, taking photos, and being in love, and we’ll handle all of the day of decisions for you.
If you have friends and family constantly offering to help you with wedding planning, take them up on the offer! There is no shame in asking for a little help from your friends, and most of the time they will jump at the opportunity if it means less stress for you.
Thrifty Events offers wedding planning, event design, and day of coordination services.
Candi Block, Founder & Event Planner
Midwest native with big-family roots, now newlywed, entrepreneur, and new home owner in the PNW. Love being involved in the community, crafting, creating, and Netflix binging.