There’s a new video out by CollegeHumor, and if you haven’t seen it, you should definitely take a moment to watch. It will hopefully bring you a few laughs. It may also bring some feelings of despair, though, because it’s really only funny because there’s so much truth to it. Being engaged is supposed to be the happiest time in your life - you’re marrying your soulmate! - but this video cuts to the heart of the matter that it’s not all rainbows and butterflies. It’s so easy for wedding planning to become all consuming, which can take a real toll on your relationship. It’s important to take some time to focus on other things, add a date night to your calendar, and put the wedding talk on hold. Here are some ideas to get you started:
1. Get outside
When you’re planning your wedding, you’ll feel like hours of time get sucked away on Pinterest, searching wedding websites, and emailing with vendors. Get outside and enjoy some fresh air. It can be a hike, or a simple trip to the park or walk through the neighborhood, the important thing is that you’re away from your computer and devices.
2. A movie night
Whether you decide to go out or stay in, it’s sometimes nice to just veg out and watch a movie. It’s a great way to take your mind off of wedding planning, and maybe get a little extra cuddling time in with your partner.
3. Find a hobby
With so much focus on the wedding, it can be great to have a hobby together. Something that reminds you that there’s more that you have in common with this person than your upcoming vows. If you like to run, consider training for a half marathon together. If you’re foodies, try going to all of the restaurants in your neighborhood together. If you like to travel, plan a few weekend getaways. Or try something new together! Maybe there’s a new pottery course you want to try, or a painting class. Whatever it is you enjoy, be sure to make time for it together.
4. Schedule specific “wedding planning” time
Because it’s so easy to get overwhelmed and all consumed in wedding planning, it’s important to set some limits. Maybe you decide to only spend 1 hour on Pinterest at a time, or one weekend a month to work on wedding projects. Whatever your limits are, stick to them! Wedding planning will increase as the date approaches, yes, but when you’re in the beginning stages, be sure to leave time for other things.
5. Find someone else to talk about wedding planning with
There are bound to be times that you and your spouse will disagree on something related to the wedding. It’s times like these that it’s important to find a good friend to share your frustrations. It’s also a good idea to select a friend that will tell you when you’re being ridiculous, because as the video shows, sometimes things that aren’t really important to us, suddenly become important when it’s the only thing on our mind.
6. Find someone you don’t talk about wedding planning with
It’s just as important to find someone that you agree will not ask you how wedding planning is coming along. Immediately following the proposal, everyone will be asking how the wedding planning is going, and you will begin to appreciate the friends that ask about your work, your dog, your book club, etc.. Sometimes the best thing a person can do to help you plan your wedding is actually not talk about the wedding at all.
Candi Block, Founder & Event Planner
Midwest native with big-family roots, now newlywed, entrepreneur, and new home owner in the PNW. Love being involved in the community, crafting, creating, and Netflix binging.
Thrifty Events offers wedding planning, event design, and day of coordination services.